This world can be a big ugly place if you buy into societies idea of perfection.
Every single day we have media and marketing messages shoved in our faces to show us things we can buy, eat, drink, wear or love in order to make our lives ‘perfect’.
This idea that if we don’t have the latest and greatest trends in everything the world has to offer we will be uncool and unlovable is engrained in our minds from a very young age.
What is even more disturbing to me how deeply this messaging affects us. We not only feel unworthy based on material possessions, but also if we do not look like the models and famous people in the ads selling the products. To me, that is a much larger issue.
What we have or look like does not make us worthy of love; it is who we are and how much we love ourselves first.
When I posted my last blog, my friend sent me this funny quote from Tina Fey’s book:
“Every girl is expected to have Caucasian blue eyes, full Spanish lips, a classic button nose, hairless Asian skin with a California tan, a Jamaican dance hall butt, long Swedish legs, small Japanese feet, the abs of a lesbian gym owner, the hips of a nine-year-old boy, and the arms of Michelle Obama. The only person close to actually achieving this look is Kim Kardashian, who, as we know, was made by Russian scientists to sabotage our athletes. Everyone else is struggling."
Although this quote is obviously all in good fun, I think it truly brings to life so many of the unrealistic physical expectations on women today and the stress we put ourselves to fit the mold.
This pressure to be ‘perfect’ is suffocating!
And in my opinion is the true definition of what makes people ugly.
The obsession to be, look and act as someone you simply are not dominates this society. I have been caught up in it at times. I think we all have. Speaking from experience – nothing feels good about trying to live as though your life is perfect. It is actually painful, uncomfortable to be in your own skin physically, and mentally tortuous. The place where you think you would feel most loved is often the place where you are surrounded by more judgment, empty compliments, the wrong type of people and a lot more pain than the skinny jeans and pretend model pictures are worth.
What do we do when we feel out of place, judged and unloved?
We are the most in debt, addicted, medicated and disconnected adult cohort that has ever existed. Eating disorders, drug use, depression and bullying are rampant among all generations, now beginning at a terrifyingly young age.
And you know what.... our actions we take to numb our physical beings - make us far less than perfect!
Wrinkles from the smoking or stress lines from the worrying. A dull complexion from the over use of alcohol. The panic attacks from having a toxic body from both recreational and western medical drug overuse. An empty bank account and debt bills piling. Being overweight because you could never possibly workout or be regimented in your meals enough to be perfect, so it feels better to overeat and numb.
All of this as a result of the stress and depression of struggling to live societies ideal life?!
Numbing out the judgment, pressure and fear of not being enough makes this generation ugly on so many levels.
What I have learned is that when you numb the pain, you numb everything. You numb the joys in life, too. You numb out the ability to deeply connect, love, grow. You numb out the motivation to work hard, take care of yourself and make a difference in this world.
To me this list is more rewarding than any new car, line bypass at the latest hotspot or ultimate profile picture on facebook.
By no means am I saying that learning to eat healthy, paying for a gym membership, or decorating your apartment with beautiful things that represent you is not important. IT IS! That is all part of self love.
When you are doing these actions because they feel good and not because people will think you are 'perfect' – that is when abundance and true happiness is unlimited. That’s when you vibrate at a capacity to put down the numbing vices, deal with your demons, inspire others to do so and be truly beautiful.
Kick the ideals of perfection off your to do list and be who you are. Happiness, health and unlimited abundance start there. So stop numbing, take charge of your health and redefine your perfect life.
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